Recently, more people are seeking alternative memorial services compared to traditional ones. Creating a celebration of life is a popular example of choosing a new and creative way to honor a loved one and say goodbye.
Rather than focusing on mourning and sadness, this service aims to focus on just what its title states: celebration. It’s about bringing people together to praise the life and share joyous memories of the departed.
One benefit a celebration of life offers, is the freedom to personalize the event that allows the personality of the deceased to shine through.
Here are 11 tips to help you plan a celebration of life event:
1. Date
A celebration of life isn’t restricted to a short window of time and can be held any date after death. Especially now, during the COVID-19 restrictions on the number of people who can gather, this allows the family to wait until these limitations are lifted. With a flexible timeframe, this allows you to plan the event on your own schedule and enlist family and friends to help with tasks. It also allows people far away to organize travel arrangements, making it easier for them to attend.
2. Place
Holding this type of service weeks or months later can offer you more choices in finding a location for it. Some people choose to do this in the funeral home, while others choose a place that had symbolism and meaning to the deceased which can also add a special connection to the event for everyone. You’ll want to consider how large of a venue is needed for your estimated number of guests and any necessary amenities, such as handicapped parking. Also, consider the required space if you plan to gather, socialize, and eat and drink all in one location.
3. Speakers
If you choose to have readers, speakers, or a eulogy, think carefully about who could best represent your loved one or those closest to them who might want to play a role in the service. Try to find poems, prayers, quotes, or readings that reflect the personality and life of the person being honored. You may also want to have an officiant such as a Rabbi, minister, or spiritual leader.
4. Invite Guests to Share Stories
Sharing stories helps connect people in grief and also keep the memory of your loved one alive. Whether it is a story that delivers laughter or tears, these memories can have a healing effect. Let guests know in the event invitation that if they feel comfortable, they are welcome to reflect at the service with their favorite memories.
5. Collect Photos
Invite guests to upload photos to an online shared photo album or bring photos to the event to place on a memory board. You can also use digital photos to create a slideshow to present at the celebration and engage guests by asking them to share memories during the show.
6. Ask for Memory Cards
Having written memories can be an important part of the healing process. Before the event, ask guests closest to the deceased to write a short memory on an index card. You could also offer them a prompt to inspire their words about that person, such as: “We had such fun when…” or “The one thing I learned from you was …” This is a memorable way to create a legacy of the person lost that can be compiled and shared to all.
7. Create a Memorial
A celebration of life is an ideal time to launch or reveal a memorial. You can plant a tree or garden, create a quilt, build a gazebo, or create a charity in their name. In addition, you could announce
participating in a fundraiser
that was special to the deceased and invite guests to join you. Some ideas can be expensive, and you might want to consider raising money for them through an online donation platform.
8. Music
Music can be a powerful expression to help those who are grieving. Creating a playlist that was meaningful to the deceased can unite people and revive heartfelt memories. This playlist can also be shared with guests so they can listen to it long after the ceremony. You will also want to decide how to provide music whether it is simply through your own device or through hiring a DJ or musicians.
9. Hospitality
The time of day for your event will help you decide on the kind of food and drink to provide, whether it’s snack food or a full buffet. You may also choose to include some favorite foods of your loved one to give it a more celebratory feel. Selecting food and beverage options can be as simple as having a potluck and asking guests to bring items or having it professionally catered.
10. Photographer/Videographer/Streaming Video
Some might not be able to attend the celebration due to illness or travel issues. Capturing it in video or photos and creating a shareable slideshow can be poignant memorabilia for all to experience. You may also choose to hold a webcast for those unable to join in. Having the celebration live streamed and recorded allows family and friends to participate in the special day from wherever they are and at any time.
11. Choose a theme
Personalizing the event is a fun way to honor your loved one. Look to their hobbies and interests to include in activities, decorations, and music. Perhaps they were a musician or a baseball player or teacher. Creating a theme connected to what they loved can help people remember them in a unique way. Some ideas involving guests include creating a time capsule, writing messages on kites to fly, or decorating luminary bags to light at the event.
Planning a celebration of life isn’t difficult, but it can take time and help to create this special occasion. Creating a timeline of all activities, tasks, and people involved can enable the process to go much smoother. Over the years we have directed all kinds of traditional and non-traditional funerals. If you would like to speak with us about planning any type of
memorial service, please call us at 609-344-9004.